Monday, 01 October 2012
Recently as of late when I've been on dating sites, I've seen a number of girls who have the phrase "No cocky guys" or "I hate hate cocky guys" on their profiles.
My usual reaction is one of two things:
A cocky guy is not a bad thing. They are simply men who are comfortable with themselves and are secure about their relationships, personal abilities, and accomplishments. He doesn't need outside sources to validate him, he knows his self worth, and takes risks (but not overly stupid ones).
The dark side of that, however, is arrogance, which is pretty much a guy who over-inflates his self worth, bragging about his accomplishments, and letting the whole world know about it. This person probably is less secure on the inside about himself and his relationships, and that is why he feels the need to tell everyone- in order to validate himself. The arrogant guy may or may not take risks under the excuses such as it is "below him" or to be a glory hound/cock block because the attention is being taken off of him.
There is a fine line between the two, don't get me wrong.
My second reaction:
Cut and dry ladies: if you want to want to date a guy like Michael Cera or Jessie Eisenberg in every role they have ever played, then go right ahead. I'm not one of them. By evolutionary standards, men who took risks were held in higher regard, and more likely to pass on their genes than men who didn't. (This also explains why women are usually more attracted to jerks/assholes/womanizers/etc)
So, how DO you distinguish a cocky guy from an arrogant one? The method is quite simple, since women are experts at it, and don't even know it. Call them out on their bullshit. An arrogant man will become defensive, seeing as you're literally sticking a pin in his balloon-esque egotism. They may even try to insult you if you burn them good enough.
A cocky guy will just laugh and play along as if it were a joke, or say something like "haha you got me", because a cocky guy doesn't need to tell you how great he is, because he already knows. After all how can you love others when you can't love yourself?
Ladies, would you date a "cocky" guy?