Monday, 01 October 2012
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"Cocky" Guys
Recently as of late when I've been on dating sites, I've seen a number of girls who have the phrase "No cocky guys" or "I hate hate cocky guys" on their profiles.
My usual reaction is one of two things:
The first:
A cocky guy is not a bad thing. They are simply men who are comfortable with themselves and are secure about their relationships, personal abilities, and accomplishments. He doesn't need outside sources to validate him, he knows his self worth, and takes risks (but not overly stupid ones).
The dark side of that, however, is arrogance, which is pretty much a guy who over-inflates his self worth, bragging about his accomplishments, and letting the whole world know about it. This person probably is less secure on the inside about himself and his relationships, and that is why he feels the need to tell everyone- in order to validate himself. The arrogant guy may or may not take risks under the excuses such as it is "below him" or to be a glory hound/cock block because the attention is being taken off of him.
There is a fine line between the two, don't get me wrong.
My second reaction:
Cut and dry ladies: if you want to want to date a guy like Michael Cera or Jessie Eisenberg in every role they have ever played, then go right ahead. I'm not one of them. By evolutionary standards, men who took risks were held in higher regard, and more likely to pass on their genes than men who didn't. (This also explains why women are usually more attracted to jerks/assholes/womanizers/etc)
So, how DO you distinguish a cocky guy from an arrogant one? The method is quite simple, since women are experts at it, and don't even know it. Call them out on their bullshit. An arrogant man will become defensive, seeing as you're literally sticking a pin in his balloon-esque egotism. They may even try to insult you if you burn them good enough.
A cocky guy will just laugh and play along as if it were a joke, or say something like "haha you got me", because a cocky guy doesn't need to tell you how great he is, because he already knows. After all how can you love others when you can't love yourself?
Ladies, would you date a "cocky" guy?
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Comments (10)
Your definition of "cocky" is actually the definition of confidant. That is where you're missing the mark. Cocky is more akin to your definition of arrogance.
In essence, when someone is cocky, they are going out of their way to say "look at me, I am superior, and super confidant". In reality, confidance is something you exude, not advertise.
I've found that even cocky guys like being called out on their bullshit. Keeps them on their toes. I like challenging people, lol.
I think most women want a secure guy. They are perfectly happy if he is confident in his looks and abilities. What they don't want is to hear about his awesome abilities every day of their life.
Wait.. That didn't sound right. lol
I always viewed cocky synonymous to extremely arrogant, so it's all the same shit to me. Either way, I'd rather date a guy who is more humble.
I like cocky because I like cock. You are right, cocky can but cute sometimes but arrogance is always a turn off.
I would have to agree with first commenter. The first description is of a confident person. Arrogant and cocky are quite the same. I think cocky may be more often used for someone who is attractive (and thus feels their arrogance is warranted) as arrogance alone can come from anyone, hot or hideous.
I don't date cocky dudes. I chop them down to size. Come back to reality, Monsieur Cocky as your flawless face and beautiful body, when infused with your shitty personality, are not God's gifts to women.
A confident guy would be sure of himself and his capabilities. What I detest are people full of themselves. They think they are the only person alive with good attributes and make everyone aware of it. If you're confident great but do not make it seem like you're the only man on earth with any likeable or good traits cause chances are even if you have that good trait you make yourself out to be an ass by flaunting it and inflating yourself.
On that note: Hee haw! Don't be an ass. Public service announcement.
Btw, you can be an ass sometimes but I wouldn't wanna date someone that is an ass all the time. It gets wearisome.
hahaha. Agreed. Elequently put!