Friday, 28 September 2012
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"I Like Older Men"
Often in my life, I have heard women say: "I want an older man."
The reasons they give usually are something to the effect of "He's in a different place than I am" or "He's more mature".
When I hear the former being said, I translate it to "I want a man who knows what he wants because I don't/who is richer than I am so he'll die off faster than I will and I will have all his money."
So my question: Why do women like older men?
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I tend to like men my age... In the 4yr older or younger area. Ha.
I used to say that i can't date a younger man until i met my boyfriend. He is 3 years younger and mature.....
Well, since my hubby is older than I, my answer would be because they are more mature than the younger breed.
I think a lot of it is stability, self-esteem issues, and daddy issues. Freud, of course, would say it is because they secretly are in love with their father. I really think it depends how old. I remmeber Anna Nichole Smith was with that old guy. Also Hugh Hefner with all his playmates... and on both of those I say it was status/money and maybe some of the others for the playmates who are around and girlfriends of Hugh Hefner. I have seen females date older guys since I was in middle school. They said it was because they were more mature, but the females themselves were not all that mature, so I dont know if I always buy that. I knew a female in early high school who I friend-ed on FB and married an older man who had kids. His kids were within 10 years of her. that is kinda creepy to me (kids were male and female).
Higher chance of financial stability and a more established social status are probably the main two things that draw younger women to older men. And chances are, they aren't drawn to those men for the sake of romance but rather they may view those men as beta males, willing to provide resources.
I was going to type this long comment about how I really do feel older men are more mature...but then I look at a few older men that I know and that comment suddenly became invalid.
I don't know why women like older men...and I guess I don't care why. lol.@QuantumStorm - I think this has a lot to do with it...
@QuantumStorm - Well fuck that I'm not going to be your ca$h bitch
@SlackerSociety - Good man.
Idk... I don't think it's about money for ALL women. I would say the maturity thing is a big factor, though older men are not necessarily more mature...
I've only dated guys less than 4 years older. As for dating guys a year or more younger? Just never happened. Why? Coincidence. Maturity and age have no correlation. Though I think that if someone was on a completely different point in life from where I am, it'd be hard for us to understand each other.
I choose the maturity level. Then again I know 30 year old immature men.
Sometimes the reasons that you mentioned, yes, but I also think that older men tend to be more willing to get married and have babies quickly. If this is what a woman wants, it makes sense that she'd go for an older guy.
My husband is less than a year older than I... the guy I dated before him was 8 years older, not financially stable or willing to get married and have kids. So stereotypes can be wrong, but I still think that's what women mean when they say they want someone older.no, that's so right. I want a guy who has his shit together because I don't and that's too much instability for me. my boyfriend is 5.5 years older than me and has a steady job/life while I'm floundering around in school trying to figure out wtf I want to do with my life. so yea, I think that's spot on.
I am 79 and women have never wanted me---except one and I married her. I had horrible luck with women all of my life. I am lucky to have one who truly loved me.
My boyfriend is 13 years older than me. First of all, I feel like we're more on the same level intellectually. Also, what's wrong with wanting a husband who is wiser and financially stable? I think it all comes down to wanting stability and a good father figure for your children. At least that's what it was for me. I learned in my Sociology class that it comes down to our Primitive instincts when we seek a man who can protect and provide, while men look for a woman that is more caring and nurturing.
I do think older people are on average nicer and easier to get along with than younger ones, regardless of the gender, but truth is I am not sexually attracted to people significantly older than me, and I do NOT want someone to die sooner and watch them grow old and senile. Call me "objectifying" and superficial if you want, and make another post to generalize women out of this comment when you are old ;).
The cliche is that young women like the money and old guys want a cheap sex-trophy and care-taker. Of course I am talking about really large age gaps here. I think looking up to someone's achievements and maturity and HAVING someone look up to you and listen to you are reasons as well. Or i's just coincidence that the person they love the most is not the same age. In the end it doesn't matter. To each their own, I say...when two people are in a relationship they both must be getting something out of it, and everyone can look for what they want.
i'd have to say that young women (late teens and 20's) like older men because of quite a few reasons, stability, maturity, the level of treatment a woman gets from an older man is better, both in the bedroom and out, and they are comfortable with themselves and their friends, there's less of the immature posturing found so often among younger men. for an older woman though, the younger men come back into play for a lot of the opposite reasons that they wanted the older men in the first place. its her turn to have her shit together and be in control.
Who cares? Get a younger wife? MmmMMmmmMmmmmm
I want old man Jimmy Page.
@MrTrololo - yeah women seem to start going sour at 27ish.
@SlackerSociety - The good thing is that in your 40's and 50's you vision goes kinda blurry so you can't notice, FTW! ;)